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If You're Here, You Matter

Our founder was told to grow up. To stop crying. That he had no reason to feel the way he did. That he would amount to little.

He's still fighting the impact of those words today.

If you were told the same things - if you're carrying the same wounds - please know this: Those people were wrong.

You're not broken. You're not weak. You're not unwell because you don't understand. You're human. And being human means sometimes you struggle, sometimes you hurt, sometimes you need help. 

That's okay. That's normal. That's brave.

Right Now - This Second - Help Is Here 

You are not the sum of your mistakes. Thinking you could have been so much more is okay. I promise you that you are not making another mistake, pause and breath, this could be the one good decision.

If you're in crisis, if you're thinking about ending your life, if the pain feels unbearable - please reach out right now.

Samaritans - 116 123

Call them. Right this second. 24 hours a day, every single day. Free from any phone.

You don't have to be suicidal to call. You don't have to have a 'good reason'. If you're struggling - that's reason enough.

They won't tell you to grow up. They won't tell you to stop crying. They won't tell you that you have no reason to feel this way.

They'll just listen. And sometimes, being heard by someone who doesn't judge you is what saves your life.

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) - 0800 58 58 58

Made for men. By people who understand. Open 5pm to midnight, every day.

They know how hard it is for men to ask for help. They know what it's like to be told you're weak for feeling things. They know you're not weak - you're human.

Can't talk? Webchat at www.thecalmzone.net - sometimes typing is easier.

Shout - Text 85258

Text SHOUT to 85258. A trained volunteer will text with you. 24/7. Free. Confidential. Anonymous.

If speaking feels impossible right now, text. Just reach out somehow. Please.

🚨 Emergency - 999

If you've harmed yourself or you're about to, call 999 or go to A&E right now.

This is an emergency. Your life matters. Get help immediately.

What to Say (If You Don't Know)

If you're scared to call because you don't know what to say, here's all you need:

'I'm struggling and I need someone to talk to.'

That's it. That's enough. You don't have to explain everything. You don't have to justify your pain. You don't have to prove you deserve help.

You're struggling. That's all the reason you need.

If You're Reading This Instead of Calling

We understand. Our founder knows what it's like to be told your feelings aren't valid, that you're making it up, that you should just get over it.

Those voices in your head telling you not to call - they're lying to you. Just like the people who told you to grow up were lying. Just like the people who said you'd amount to little were lying.

Take a breath.

You've made it this far. That takes strength you don't even realize you have.

You're still here. That matters.

Now take one more step. One more act of courage. Pick up the phone and call 116 123.

Or text 85258.

Or if you're in danger right now, call 999.

Please. Your life matters. You matter.

For When You're Ready - Ongoing Support

Mind - 0300 123 3393

Mental health information and support. Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm.
Email: info@mind.org.uk

They can help you understand what you're going through and find the right support. You don't have to figure this out alone.

Your GP

Book an appointment. Be honest about how you're feeling. They can refer you to NHS mental health services - counselling, therapy, support that's designed to help.

You're not wasting their time. You're not being dramatic. You deserve help.

Andy's Man Club

Free peer support groups for men across the UK. Other men who understand. No judgment. No pressure to 'man up'. Just honest conversations.

andysmanclub.co.uk - Find your local group

Men's Sheds

Community spaces where men connect, work on projects, and support each other. Sometimes it's easier to talk while your hands are busy.

menssheds.org.uk - Find your local shed

The Truth They Should Have Told You

No man ever really stops being a boy. And boys cry sometimes when they're scared.

That's not weakness. That's being human.

You weren't told to grow up because you were immature. You were told to grow up because the people around you didn't know how to handle emotion.

You weren't told to stop crying because crying is wrong. You were told to stop crying because it made other people uncomfortable.

You weren't told you had no reason to feel that way because your feelings weren't valid. You were told that because people didn't understand - or didn't want to understand.

Your feelings are real. Your pain is valid. You deserve support.

Reaching Out Is the Bravest Thing You Can Do

Not the weakest. The bravest.

You're not a burden. You're a human being who deserves help.

You're not alone. Thousands of men are fighting the same battle right now.

You're not less of a man for needing support. You're human.

Boys cry too. Men cry too. And that's okay. That's necessary. That's survival.

If You're Worried About Someone Else

Trust your gut. If you're worried, there's probably a reason.

Ask directly: 'Are you okay? I mean really okay?' Don't hint. Be direct.

Listen without fixing: You don't have to solve everything. Just be there.

Take it seriously: If they mention suicide, believe them. Don't dismiss it.

Offer practical help: 'Can I help you call someone?' or 'Want me to come with you to the GP?'

Stay connected: Check in. Keep showing up. Your presence matters more than you know.

If someone is in immediate danger, call 999.

Why This Page Exists

Our founder started Boys Cry Too because he knows what it's like to need help and be too ashamed to ask for it. To carry wounds from childhood into adulthood. To fight voices that say you're not enough.

He's doing what he can to help anyone else going through what he's been through.

This page exists because 16 men die by suicide every day in the UK. Men who were told the same lies. Men who believed they had to suffer alone. Men who deserved so much better.

Please don't be one of them.

The people who told you to grow up, to stop crying, that you'd amount to little - they were wrong about you.

You matter. Your life matters. Your pain is real. You deserve help.

Call 116 123 right now. Please.

Because no man ever really stops being a boy. And boys cry sometimes when they're scared. And that's okay. That's human. That's brave.

You are not broken. You are not weak. You are not alone. Help is available. Please reach out.

And if you want a coffee - I'll always make time to be the one who is there - for you - for anyone. You need to be you again or not you, and thats where it goes wrong. You are strong enough and have done this before - help change the future if we can't change the present.